Tag Archives: topics

Guest Blogger: I’m Harassed at Work Because of My Hair

25 Oct

Chi writes:

At my job there is one other woman who is natural. She has locks. No one says anything about her hair. My hair is a different story. I am constantly the butt of jokes. Anytime someone is telling a story about difficult hair or wild hair, they use my hair as the measuring stick. They will say “It was thick like hers” or “It was even wilder than her hair”. Any style that I wear is looked at as being wild and untamed. I have never gone to work with my hair untamed, unclean, or uncombed.  The only time I get compliments from them is if I wear it in a curly style.

It hurts more because I get this from my co-workers who are also African-American women. My other co-workers have only given me positive comments about my hair.  I know that it comes from a self-esteem issue on their part. One of them has hair that is not even an inch long, but she insists on putting a relaxer in it. Another one is always complaining about her own hair. The only time she feels comfortable is when she has a weave in it.

I like to be professional at work so I don’t lash out when these statements are made. I have just taken it so far because it’s always done in a very public setting. They don’t make these comments to me when we have private conversations. I can’t even go to my supervisor because she is one of the people who is guilty of this.

I keep my opinions about their hair to myself. I wish they would do the same. They don’t have to like my hair, but I am tired of being harassed because I prefer my hair natural. What should I do?

Thanks, Chi for sharing your story. If any of you reading would like to be a Guest Blogger, please contact me at naturalbyl@gmail.com .

Photo Source: Bbc.uk

What’s the Best Thing About Your Hair?

20 Oct

We are great about giving other people compliments on their hair, but how often do you really take the time to appreciate what is great about your own? Be a little bit vain for a moment, it’s okay.  You’re amongst friends.

Follow me on Twitter @naturalbyl

Kohl’s Sells Offensive Wig

18 Oct

Kohl’s is currently selling a wig on their website that is called the “Ghetto Fab Wig”. The description mentions that it is disco-inspired. If it is disco-inspired, why is it called the ghetto fab wig?  Why didn’t anyone realize that this was a bad idea?

UPDATE :

Naturals have been busy today and let Kohl’s know exactly what we thought of the “Ghetto Fab” wig. Due to the feedback, it will be removed from the Kohl’s website. The company said that it will be off tomorrow. Kohl’s also responded to several commenters on Twitter and apologized for the incident.

How Do You Support Other Naturals?

10 Oct

A few weeks ago I was at a flea market when I noticed two women looking in my direction.  I walked by them once. They didn’t say anything, but it seemed like they wanted to. I walked by a second time, and one of them stood up and came closer. She told me that she was thinking about going natural. She asked me what I had in my hair that day.  She also asked me what was holding my puff.  I get this question pretty regularly. I told her that it was pantyhose.  Not the skimpy kind, but a piece cut from a pair that was nice and sturdy.  I don’t mind answering these kinds of questions because I know that we all need that sometimes.  There is a lot of information available about natural hair, but that doesn’t replace being able to ask  someone face to face.  What are some ways that you support other naturals?

Please leave your responses in the comments section. Thanks!

Photo Source: Nattydreadz.com

AfroVeda Price Increases

6 Oct

According to the AfroVeda website, prices increased on a few products this month (There were also price decreases on some other products) . The list of products that were increased are as follows:

Price Increases
10/1 – Shea Amla Whipped Butter Cream-8oz $21.50 and 16oz $36.50
10/1 – Totally Twisted Ginger Almond Butter-8oz 18.50 and 16oz 31.50
10/1 – Curl Define-8oz 18.50 and 16oz $31.50
10/1 – CocoLatte Moisture Mask-80z $21.50 and 16oz $36.50
10/1 – Hemp Seed Lock, Twist & Roll Butter-8oz $23.50 and 16oz $41.50
10/1 – PUR Whipped Hair Gelly-8oz $17.50 and 16 oz $23.50
10/1 – Ginger Root Hair Pomade-40z $8.75 and 16oz $13.75

For an example of how much the products increased, some that are now $21.50 were $9 this time last year. They had increased to $12.50 in March.

Some loyal users of AfroVeda are angry about the new prices. The creator of the products left a statement on her website that the increases were due to increases in the cost of natural ingredients. Are these prices comparable to what other companies are charging? If you are a user of AfroVeda, will you continue to purchase these products? If you had not tried them before, does this affect you trying them in the future? Please leave your thoughts and comments in the comments section.


Guest Blogger: The Nappy Race-The Real Beginning

27 Sep

The Nappy Race – THE REAL BEGINNING (Ch 2)

Tania writes:

It’s your official first month on the ‘transition’ leg of the race. Your run thus far is strong. You feel confident and secure with your decision. You pat yourself on the back because you have been solid in your decision to bear through this process. But little did you know the first 30 days are only a small piece to the prize. The real journey begins here….

As you count the weeks and months you have put behind you, the cushion of puffiness that surrounds your scalp is scary. No one told you that your ‘natural’ hair would grow in like this. Coily, kinky, nappy…. all of the above apply. The breakage and shedding has increased dramatically, which is the reason why you decided to go natural. As you continue to visit your hair stylist, she tries to ‘oh so nicely’, encourage you to PLEASE come back to the ‘relaxed’ side. This ‘natural phase’ you seem to be going through is out of her realm and she is pulling straws to try to figure out what to do with your hair in this state.

As the half a year mark swings through, those transitional styles such as braids, straw sets, and pressing begin to bore you. Maybe it’s time to be fully natural, no more breakage due to the two different textures, and you get the vision of a healthy ‘fro……. with your face on it (who would have known). It’s in that moment that you realize IT’S TIME. You are now ready for the Big Chop.

COMING SOON: CHOPPED AND SCREWED (CH. 3)
About the Guest Blogger:
Beauty is the business of Tania Chandler. With over 10 years experience in the industry, she has been recognized as the natural hair care expert. Specializing in caring, styling & repairing locs, double strand twists, pressing, weaves, & her favorite – easing clients through the process of transitioning back to Nappyness 😉 . She prides herself on staying educated & keeping up with the latest trends. Her work has been featured in film/TV, print, runway, and everyday beauties such as yourself! She currently services clients in Baltimore, MD & Central PA.

You can visit Tania’s site HERE

Guest Blogger: The Nappy Race-The Beginning

20 Sep


Tania writes:

A little bit of breakage here, a little bit of breakage there – And that’s how it starts. “Well maybe a treatment will help,”  you think to yourself. After a few treatments, trims, a weave, some Dominican blow outs, a couple headaches, and few pain relievers (need I go on) your hair screams, “Enough is enough, I’m going natural.” However, the look on your face is not that convincing.
Yes, the idea of going natural can be scary and confusing. A laundry list of questions began to ring in your head as you consider how the change will affect you. Of course, you see the wonderful pictures of ladies with healthy, natural hair everywhere. From the latest black hair magazines to GAP commercials, curls & kinks are in. But as you dig a little deeper, you find that there ARE even more options with wearing your hair natural. From a natural ‘fro, to locs, double-strands, coils, straw sets, pressing, and the list goes on. Through your research, you discover a cool idea of ‘transitioning’. Since everyone told you that the only way to go natural was to India Arie it, your relieved to find options (there goes that word again).

The transition either viewed as a wonderful inner beauty experience or a plague. This phase is only the beginning but the hardest obstacle to overcome. Unfortunately, this is the place were many of our sistas decide to drop out of the nappy race to Their Natural Wonder. But for the sistas who hang in there, put their boxing gloves on and go comb-to-comb with their coils get a greater reward, confidence and higher sense of self to match that beautiful healthy hair.

About the Guest Blogger:
Beauty is the business of Tania Chandler. With over 10 years experience in the industry, she has been recognized as the natural hair care expert. Specializing in caring, styling & repairing locs, double strand twists, pressing, weaves, & her favorite – easing clients through the process of transitioning back to Nappyness 😉 . She prides herself on staying educated & keeping up with the latest trends. Her work has been featured in film/TV, print, runway, and everyday beauties such as yourself! She currently services clients in Baltimore, MD & Central PA.

You can visit Tania’s site HERE

Thanks for sharing, Tania. Check back next week for Chapter 2-The Real Beginning. If you would like to be a Guest Blogger, contact me at naturalbyl@gmail.com.

Jill Scott Gets a Perm?

31 Aug

I have been seeing so many photos of Jill Scott’s recent hairdo.  Apparently, the photo was taken while she was attending a high school class reunion. Some say that they love the new look on her, and some people are outraged.  I read some pretty strong comments regarding the change.  The first thought I had was that I can’t tell if her hair is permed/relaxed or if it is just straightened.  Also, it is her hair.  I loved all of the natural looks that Jill has worn over the years. I will miss them if those days are over.  My first post on this blog was about what a natural inspiration Jill Scott is. Even so, I’m not angry or upset about the photo. 

P.S.  Even though I look nothing like Jill Scott, I always know what’s coming when someone says “Do you know who you look like?” If Jill Scott goes to wearing her hair straight, what celebrity will people tell me that I look like now? That’s selfish, Jill. Did you even think of me?

What are your thoughts on the topic?

Does It Matter Why Someone Goes Natural?

26 Jul


I was reading the natural hair message board on Livejournal, and I came across an interesting post.  The person who wrote the post stated that she is noticing more people going natural because they like the hairstyles.  She gave some examples and thoughts about the trend she saw. Then she posed the question “Is being natural a hairstyle or a lifestyle?” Most of the commenters disagreed with what she wrote and felt that she was being judgmental.

I have seen these kinds of topics popping up more often. That is what prompted one of my previous posts. On the “What Is Natural to You?” post: HERE , I asked you all to define what natural means to you. We all have different definitions, and we had different motivation for starting down this path. It’s enlightening to discuss, and I think good information comes from those discussions.

You can read the post I mentioned and the comments HERE . I am interested to see where you all stand on the issue.  Does it matter why someone goes natural?